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Relationships and Infidelity: The Truth

Relationships and infidelity can often seem black and white. For instance, infidelity may always seem wrong, inexplicable, or scary in the context of a marriage. However, this is not always the case. Just because you experience infidelity does not mean that you are not loved. Let’s talk about how infidelity in relationships, including marriage, may occur for reasons other than lack of caring. Infidelity may actually be linked to biology, genes, or other factors. Read on to learn the truth behind infidelity for some partners.

We’re Not (Always) Programmed for Monogamy

There are many things that can contribute to infidelity. Scientists even claim that, for some people, infidelity can be linked to genes. From a biological standpoint, one could very well argue we are meant to reproduce as often as possible. Reproduction does not need any emotional attachment. Animals do it all the time, and we are but animals ourselves. Studies show that we may also be biologically programmed to seek out more than one mate. Having more than one mate diversifies the gene pool. This diversification makes it more likely that our offspring will thrive, as will their offspring.

Sexual versus Emotional Infidelity

Don’t think that all infidelity is always linked to romantic involvement. Often, those in relationships outside their partnership or marriage may only be in it for the sex. This observation may not seem so comforting. But, you need to understand that it is possible for people to have sex without having feelings for the other person. Such a realizations you help you to better understand how a person could have an affair and still love you. Emotional infidelity, or a combination of emotional and sexual infidelity is also possible. However, if your partner tells you it was only sex, consider the source. They could be telling the truth. 

Not All Relationships That Experience Infidelity are Unhappy

A recent study shows, overwhelming, that those who are married, but have had affairs, do not see their marriages as unhappy. In fact, on a survey, many of these same spouses rated their marriage as being very happy or at least happy. This proves that just because a person cheats on you it does not always mean that they are unhappy with you. Instead, their infidelity may because of any of the reasons outlined above. Just remember it’s not your fault, and your spouse may very well still love you.